Relationship Reset: The real time experiment in rebuilding love after baby (1 couples experience)

The moment we realised something had to change

Lately, my husband M and I have been trying to figure out how to bring connection back into our relationship after having a baby.

You could call this our ‘relationship reset.’

Turns out, we’re not alone.

67% of parents say their relationship struggles in the first three years after having a baby.

I’m surprised that number isn’t higher.

Because becoming parents changes everything.

Pure joy. Love so deep you’ve never felt before.

And also:

• Exhaustion hits like a freight train.
• Roles shift in ways you never expected.
• Time together disappears – or just feels…different.

You go from being a couple to feeling like two people running a household together. Like co-founders of a tiny, demanding start-up that doesn’t pay and never sleeps.

It’s 7pm, and the most exciting conversation of the night is:

“Did you grab more wipes?”

Or better yet:

“Did you see the colour of the baby’s poo? More green or brown?”

Nothing’s wrong, but you know it could be better.

This is exactly why we started our relationship reset.

This is a season. But does it have to stay this way?

Let me be clear – I think this is a season.

We need to give ourselves plenty of grace.

Becoming a parent is one of the steepest learning curves of your life.

It’s probably a lot harder than you expected.

So of course your relationship isn’t always going to be the priority.

But we still found ourselves asking:

What do we do about this?

What makes the difference?

There’s another side to this stat no one talks about.

The 33% of couples who don’t struggle in the first three years.

What’s different about them?

What are they doing that we aren’t?

We don’t have the complete answer – yet.

But we’re determined to find out.

That’s where Lovebundles comes in. It started as a way to share helpful insights with other parents going through the same thing.

At first, I played it safe in my writing.

I worried about privacy, about ‘airing our dirty laundry,’ about whether sharing our personal experiences would even be helpful.

So instead, I framed Lovebundles as a place for ‘expert advice’ –

✔ Polished insights
✔ Relationship strategies
✔ What worked for us

But something didn’t feel right. Instead of just sharing the wins, I wanted to document the real process – what we’re learning, what’s working, and what’s not.

Why “expert advice” isn’t the answer (on its own)

We’re not relationship experts.

But we do read the books, listen to the advice, and take in what experts have to say.

We just don’t assume every strategy works for every couple.

Because you don’t need:

❌ Another fluffy ‘just go on a date night’ post (though connection ideas will definitely be here).
❌ Another social media account making your partner out to be the enemy (even though relationship challenges are very real).
❌ Another relationship expert who’s been working with couples for decades (though they’re great, and we learn a lot from them).

That’s why LoveBundles isn’t about teaching expert advice – it’s about testing it in real life and giving you the tools to do the same.

💡 The goal? To help you filter out the noise and find what actually works for your relationship.

And more than that – this isn’t just about your relationship itself.

Because when life feels overwhelming, it’s not always a “relationship issue.” Sometimes, it’s just too many things on your plate.

That’s why this space isn’t just about love – it’s also about simplifying life together so you can actually show up for each other.

Because advice is only helpful if it makes your life easier, not harder.

Some of it will. Some of it won’t.

We’ll share it all so you can take what fits, leave what doesn’t, and shape a relationship reset that actually works for you.

So moving forward, I’ll be sharing more of our relationship notes alongside the practical tips and tools.

More like a journal than ‘expert articles.’

I’m a millennial baby, and if you are too, you may remember platforms like LiveJournal, where you could keep a diary online.

Kind of like that.

And my sKaTeR gIrL self is here for it.

It may be a bit more raw and rough around the edges, but hopefully being more open will be helpful to you if you’ve ever wondered:

“Are we the only ones struggling?”

“Is this normal?”

“What can we try?”

Why this matters (and why you’re here)

If you’re here, I’m guessing you feel it too:

• Your relationship has taken a backseat to your baby.
• Conversations are just logistics.
• Physical & emotional intimacy is fading – you don’t feel like “you” anymore.

This is completely normal in this season.

But over time, we know where this can lead:

⚠ Resentment over who does what.
⚠ Increased conflict or emotional distance.
⚠ One or both partners feeling unheard, unappreciated, or trapped.

We’ve seen it happen.

Couples who start as teammates end up as roommates.

But here’s what I’ve observed:

Most people don’t fall out of love. They just stop paying attention.

We don’t want to be those people.

And if you don’t either, you’re in the right place.

A relationship reset isn’t about going back to how things were, it’s about building something new that works for the season you’re in now.

What Lovebundles is becoming

This isn’t about making huge, overwhelming changes.

It’s about 1% shifts that actually fit into real life.

✔ How to stay connected in small, realistic ways.
✔ Tools for communicating – even when you’re exhausted & stressed.
✔ Ways to bring back affection & intimacy naturally.
✔ A partnership mindset – not two people carrying separate loads.

💡 More than anything, Lovebundles is here to remind you that you’re not alone in this mess, that normalising the struggle takes away the shame, and that even the smallest, real-life shifts can create big change.

Because sometimes, a relationship reset is just a small decision to reconnect in the middle of a chaotic season.

The ‘D’ word: Let’s talk about it.

I hesitate to mention it.

But I can’t ignore it.

While divorces involving children have been decreasing in Australia over the past 20 years, 1 in 3 first marriages still end in divorce.

But this isn’t just about avoiding divorce.

It’s about building a relationship that actually thrives – even in one of the hardest seasons of life.

Because your relationship isn’t just about you two.

It’s the foundation your family is built on.

The reset starts now. Are you in?

So far, our story isn’t a ‘happily ever after.’

It’s a work in progress.

And right now, that looks like a relationship reset.

One small shift at a time.

If this resonates, you’re invited to be part of it.

What do you think of the relationship reset?

👎 Boo, stick to expert led articles please.
👍 Yes, I’m all for the relationship notes!